Myths Facts About Introverts :
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
dan ini membuat aku kaget sendiri. hal-hal diatas menyadarkan aku bahwa... aku ini bisa digolongkan introvert. hampir semua yang dikatakan, benar atas diriku. ini... sedikit memusingkan kepala.
aku berusaha buat jadi seorang yang ekstrovert. karena mindsetku mengatakan bahwa ekstrovert lebih menyenangkan. membuahkan hasil juga. jumlah kenalanku meningkat.
disamping itu aku juga menyadari bahwa aku nggak bisa kayak orang - orang itu, yang dengan mudah cari bahan obrolan dengan orang yang ditahu (hanya tahu), obrolan nggak penting. sulit untuk menganggap mereka adalah teman-teman. secara default radarku mencari plus-minus dari diri seseorang. lalu mengecap mereka. tidak bisa begitu memang. tidak bisa mengejudge orang hanya dari awalan saja; selain karena setiap orang juga punya sisi diri yang lain, setiap orang pun punya hak untuk berubah. ada sih, ada beberapa orang yang bisa aku maafkan, hanya beberapa. sesuai ya dengan myth-fact di atas. namun kejadiannya akan berbeda bila dengan orang asing, orang yang benar-benar tidak aku kenal, yang bertemu di jalan, di antrean dll.
seringkali aku lebih suka menjadi pendengar. bagiku mendengarkan terasa lebih menyenangkan. saat-saat dimana aku ingin berbicara adalah ketika topiknya sangat sangat menarik, bukan karena sedang gaul atau sedang booming, tapi yang benar-benar bisa membuat perhatianku berbelok. tapi bukan berati kalo aku nggak mau ngobrol dengan kamu, obrolanmu membosankan atau aku nggak suka berteman denganmu atau apa. biasanya aku menanggapi ucapanmu dengan berdialog pada diriku sendiri, sering aku lupa bahwa seharusnya aku mengatakannya. asyiknya berdialog dengan diri sendiri. hmm oke, mungkin aku sedang memikirkan hal lain yang cukup complicated, sedang bad mood, atau yaa memang sedang ingin berdiam dan mendengarkanmu bicara (atau juga, bisa saja aku naksir kamu jadi aku grogi hehehehe). sesuai juga ya dengan myth-fact di atas.
see? ternyata nggak mudah memahami diri sendiri. ini yang membuatku ragu untuk memastikan bahwa aku memahami orang lain. bagaimana bisa, diri sendiri yang sudah bersama-sama sejak awaaal sekalii aja belum bisa paham. :)